Wardrobe Choices like Life Choices we make

We pass through this world but once. Few tragedies can be more extensive than the stunting of life, few injustices deeper than the denial of an opportunity to strive or even to hope, by a limit imposed from without, but falsely identified as lying within. – Stephen Jay Gould


images (2)It’s one thing to lie outwardly about your outfit but something totally different and must drastic  is to lie internally to oneself.  In life and one’s life journey, we will encounter numerous of interactions i.e. “relationships” with another person.  Note that this is not limited to those JUST the intimate ones but any interaction with another.  What is baffling to me after many recent conversations with random acquaintances are the lies we apparently tell ourselves, the ‘concessions’ we make just to deal!  Yet the end result is just more hurt, pain and disappoint.

There is something to be said for having a well-rounded life with varying interests, people you can have a good time with, passions/events, activities you can engage in which all lend themselves to creating a life bigger than yourself thus enabling you a diverse arena to expand upon who you are.

When we throw all of our apples into one thing – a man and especially one who was not worthy of such commitment to begin with we feel loss, we in fact lose most of our control and power.  The last thing we want to relinquish power on is our being in this world.  We must first acknowledge and make peace with exactly WHO we are as individuals inside out; we must know and understand our worthy – that we are worthy; we must make the decisions that have our best interests at heart (not in a selfish way but a responsible where everyone ultimately benefits).  Let’s focus on controlling that which is in our power and allow the rest to happen according to the life plan.

broken silhouetteWe can lie about our outfit; the designer, our shoe size and no one will be the wiser but when we lie to ourselves or others about our relationships we are prohibiting ourselves healing and subsequently moving forward holistically!  I had a conversation with someone today who had been taken to through the ringer (silliness) but continued to lie to herself about her relationship.  Meanwhile, he has moved on, living his life, and continuing to treat you  he has yet as you’ve regained our ‘sight’ you realize now you deserve more.  To get more it should not include spreading this baggage to the next without taking time to cleanse, to rid yourself of what was.  It is not about forgetting as much as it is about acknowledging, making peace and knowing that ‘we’ will do better; that we will not satisfy the pains of the last with more pain from the next.

Like choosing a bad outfit, if we just ignore it vs understanding WHY we chose those pieces we’d be doomed to repeat it.  In life, if instead of embracing the pain and transgressions in hopes of doing different we will continue to pick the same Outfit selection.

There truly is nothing worst than being out in a bad or less than desirable outfit….can ruin a whole night!


– Selena Dawn



Bare Soles…..bare SOULS

Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists.. it is real.. it is possible.. it’s yours.  – Ayn Rand


images (17)“The world you desire CAN be won” but YOU have to want it, live it, breathe it and not allow the world around you to tell you otherwise.  Ever feel a sense of relief when climbing out of your designer heels and planting your feet square on the ground? Baring your soul, your inner-you renders the same euphoric feeling or sense of bliss.  The key is getting to the inner you to comfortably and with confidence bare your soul.

To often we spend our days living for someone else; living behind ourselves for fear of what the reveal will expose.  In doing so we are not truly living so much as we are existing.  We must come from behind the shadows of ourselves to fully experience a life that is exactly what we design and strictly by our rules.  We must discontinue the business of allowing others to determine our destiny by settling and making excuses for them and ourselves.

Think about it, that relationship you think you have, with the man who is merely giving you crumbs because that is what you accept.  Are you really in a relationship that is satisfying your needs?  Are you in a relationship at all or is this just a figment of a relationship because it is “all that you know” or all you feel you deserve?  Are you in a relationship with someone yet you feel all alone or are operating as if you are a party of one?  Well guess what, you probably are!!

I’m here to tell you that you deserve more and should demand more, not from him per se but from YOURSELF!  When we understand our true market value and overall worth then we can live a life that is ours and ours alone because we are less apt to settle for crumbs thrown by another who is often not even worthy.

When we know our value, understand our worth, and uphold ourselves to those standards we can then live and give freely and not in hopes of getting something in return.  When we guard our time as the precious commodity it is and protect it from those not vested nor able to respect it we are then taking responsibility for our lives by dictating the terms, by reflecting outward our expectations.  Ultimately we are empowering ourselves by taking ownership for our lives versus allowing another to make the choice for us.  Baring one’s soul starts with baby steps until you understand perhaps where/who you are, where/who you’ve been, and where/who you want to be.

You see, bare soles represents being grounded in a soul that is bare because you have tapped into your inner being to live the fullest life possible with only those in it who are deserving and most worthy of being there!

Next time you bare your soles, take time to bare your soul!

~ Selena Dawn

Getting to YOU!

Early one recent Saturday morning I was awaken because I had fallen asleep with my TV on.  I had fallen asleep to a sitcom but was awaken by some “inspirational show”.  Normally I would immediately turn it off but as I searched for the remote with one eye open in a TV lit room something caught my attention!  The speaker was spot on and from what I gathered the goal of course is to have a foundation in the Creator, but also being able to encourage and motivate yourself, become healed, become successful at what you desire, and pass the message.  A few points resonated with me and this is my take on them:

Self portrait determines self confidence:  The picture that you would like to paint of yourself should be the who, what and how of you…who you truly are, what you surround yourself with, and how you perceive yourself.

Attitude determines access: Knowing that you are of greatness and can achieve greatness in your passion allows for endless possibilities.

Recognize the positive in every situation: Know that things don’t just happen, believe that your steps are ordered and that being true to you and in your daily walk having the strength to sit on the park bench, breathe during the “storms” of life, and find the silver lining will take you far. Find that favorite quote, song, saying or scripture and repeat it daily.

Decisions decide wealth: Wealth may not be monetary, but peace, happiness or all of the above. We have to believe that every right decision is placing us one step closer to the place of wealth that we each desire.

I was so taken with the message that I took notes and I’m working on exercising them. This journey to getting to me is a trip worth taking! Let’s go!