New Year, Now What?


Now that the 1st 24 hours of the new year have passed, that leaves 364 days remaining to set goals, strive to be a better you, lose weight, etc. How many have already given up or failed to launch altogether after turning in from the festivities of New Year’s Eve? Better yet, as the clock struck midnight on 12/31/14 and Auld Lang Syne was sang and played wherever you were fortunate enough to be, how did your 2014 goals, dreams, and desires stack up?

That’s the thing about New Year’s eve and up to the 1st week of the new year….we make so many plans yet find ourselves back in the day to day of our lives and routines with our ‘resolutions’ but a distant past.

Instead of “Resolutions” how bout just resolving to be your best self in 2015 which means different things to different people yet emits a light of positivity with a positive end state no matter who owns it.  Being your best self seems pretty attainable and not too restrictive while still being open to interpretation.  Being your best self enables you to start from where you are today be it (in your opinion) already your best self, wanting more, wanting something different or just plain seeking something new.  We all know that what you put out in the universe is what you get back so aiming to be your best self will no doubt return goodness and who couldn’t use that in their lives?!

Above thoughtsworking out, eating better, being honest, blah blah blah try working from the inside out as in the core of you and watch how it permeates throughout all corners of your life. The good thing with just striving to be your best self is that no matter how far you get in that quest you will still have made a difference… yourself.

Soooooo, New Year, Now What?

Now YOU!!!  Get out there and find yourself but not just any ole regular you, your BEST self!

Happy New Year!!!


Bare Soles…..bare SOULS

Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists.. it is real.. it is possible.. it’s yours.  – Ayn Rand


images (17)“The world you desire CAN be won” but YOU have to want it, live it, breathe it and not allow the world around you to tell you otherwise.  Ever feel a sense of relief when climbing out of your designer heels and planting your feet square on the ground? Baring your soul, your inner-you renders the same euphoric feeling or sense of bliss.  The key is getting to the inner you to comfortably and with confidence bare your soul.

To often we spend our days living for someone else; living behind ourselves for fear of what the reveal will expose.  In doing so we are not truly living so much as we are existing.  We must come from behind the shadows of ourselves to fully experience a life that is exactly what we design and strictly by our rules.  We must discontinue the business of allowing others to determine our destiny by settling and making excuses for them and ourselves.

Think about it, that relationship you think you have, with the man who is merely giving you crumbs because that is what you accept.  Are you really in a relationship that is satisfying your needs?  Are you in a relationship at all or is this just a figment of a relationship because it is “all that you know” or all you feel you deserve?  Are you in a relationship with someone yet you feel all alone or are operating as if you are a party of one?  Well guess what, you probably are!!

I’m here to tell you that you deserve more and should demand more, not from him per se but from YOURSELF!  When we understand our true market value and overall worth then we can live a life that is ours and ours alone because we are less apt to settle for crumbs thrown by another who is often not even worthy.

When we know our value, understand our worth, and uphold ourselves to those standards we can then live and give freely and not in hopes of getting something in return.  When we guard our time as the precious commodity it is and protect it from those not vested nor able to respect it we are then taking responsibility for our lives by dictating the terms, by reflecting outward our expectations.  Ultimately we are empowering ourselves by taking ownership for our lives versus allowing another to make the choice for us.  Baring one’s soul starts with baby steps until you understand perhaps where/who you are, where/who you’ve been, and where/who you want to be.

You see, bare soles represents being grounded in a soul that is bare because you have tapped into your inner being to live the fullest life possible with only those in it who are deserving and most worthy of being there!

Next time you bare your soles, take time to bare your soul!

~ Selena Dawn