Live your best LIFE not your best LIE

LIFE…..oh what a splendid thing! An adventure; a journey; for some a mirage!

So many of us have become so good at living a life of lies [for others] that we are merely a shell of a person, of our true selves – empty on the inside.  No one said life would be easy and if you ask anyone of a ‘particular age’ they would no doubt admit that they had NO IDEA THIS is what life would be like (good, bad or indifferent)!

good on the insideUnfortunately we, as individuals, complicate life oftentimes because of our pasts, what did or did not happen; our decisions and choices; our failures, letdowns and disappointments. In the midst of this thing called ‘LIFE’ we love to paint a picture of [semi] perfection in which we gladly and freely hide behind so much that we often lose ourselves in the process.  WHO are YOU?!

Be it an empty, unfulfilled, no-love marriage/relationship; to general delusions of who we THINK we are or shall I say who we want others to think we are (check the everyday Facebook, twitter, IG, or any other social media status).  It all comes down to living a lie for fear of, and it’s usually fear of something,  most likely what others would think if they knew otherwise.

Prime example:  RELATIONSHIPS!

People stay in relationships with those they know they don’t care about, aren’t meshed with, have fallen out of love with, grown apart from, or just simply can’t stand not to mention a situation that has just have run its course.  WHY?

Here are a few of my thoughts as to why…..[just my thoughts]

1.  Society thinks highly of a “duo” a.k.a “coupledom” vs singlehood (have you seen all the commercials on dating websites?)!  Like when has being single been akin to having the plague?  Let’s not even talk about divorce when so many are looking for holy matrimony (the biggest lie, one I wish people especially women would bury deep in a grave).  How dare someone divorce because they are no longer equally yoked, or unfulfilled or empty or just not wanting to be that anymore.

2.  An honest yet still a fear is staying in order to spare the other person any hurt and pain.  THIS I can completely sympathize with however how long can the charade continue before you are truly just a shell of yourself?

3.  Who wants to be alone?  Well honestly if you’re in an unfulfilled, empty relationship/marriage then technically you are ALONE!  lie to others not yourself

4.  Some would rather be miserable with someone because the world has bought into their facade and to give that up would be the ultimate crime right?  Not really.

5.  Many think and will say aloud:  “Well there’s nothing else out there and besides nothing is perfect” [blank stare]!  This has always been a crazy way to reason or rationalize a bad relationship or reason to stay in a less than desirable one.  The worst crime ever to oneself is living a lie, settling, making excuses for what IS instead of facing what is for WHAT IT IS.  There is ALWAYS something else out there and it’s called LIFE!

Another example I find is projecting what we want others to see when versus just living our truths.  See what people forget is that the truth always shows up.

We must live for ourselves so that we can TRULY live for others.  Living every day in the land of make-believe does nothing for the soul, the inner being.  Saying it aloud and projecting does not make it so for the soul always knows and at the end of the day when you are alone with your thoughts, that inner voice is ultimately the one you want singing your praises vs reminding you of your truth.

Every day people get up and play dress up with themselves except instead of clothes they are putting on personalities, images, lifestyles, overall facades; trickery and tom foolery for a myriad of reasons.  I’d bet money to say that it is a heavy burden to carry and weighs them down daily (unless they self-medicate with addictions a.k.a band-aids).  There is no peace greater than that of inner peace.  Who wants to come ‘home’ to the true truth especially if we’ve been living an untruth all day?  That is merely existing, not living and who wants to waste their lives doing that?

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The beauty of life is that it’s never too late (until it’s too late) to make a change, to start anew, to reinvent oneself.  The hardest step is always the first but your inner being will be forever grateful.  As Iyanla [Vanzant] says, “you have to do the work” and really that is the secret.  Whatever you want to happen in your life will require work.  Often this work is tedious, unrewarding [at the time], and sometimes arduous but in the end it will all be worth it because whatever the outcome will be solely based on your merits in truth.

So no more excuses, no more tall tales, and empty promises; no more playing dress-up with your life, your story; no more existing vs living; no more lies to the world and mainly those you make to yourself.

The biggest lie you can and will ever tell is that which you tell yourself.  Start at the conclusion of this message by freeing yourself from the chains that you have placed upon you so you can truly live your best LIFE and not your best LIE!

Be well!!

 

 

 

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Rejuvenate the Body, Inside – Out

As I’m always on a quest to resurrect my soul I thought I would share this post I stumbled upon from the one and only Deepak Chopra.

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Your body is boundless. It’s channeling the energy, creativity, and intelligence of the entire universe.

 

 

Are you ready for a radical change in the way you see your body?

Before we can reinvent our bodies, we must be willing to let go of our old limiting beliefs about our bodies that continue to imprison us.

Consider the following:

  • If the body is just a machine that wears out over time, then why do muscles grow stronger with use and bone density increase with weight bearing exercise?
  • If the brain is merely a biological computer, then would we be able change it through learning, meditation and the experience of compassion?
  • If our bodies are only a passive product of our genetic code, then why would our behavior be able to change the expression of some genes?
  • You share 60% of your genes with a banana, 90% with a mouse, and more than 99% with a chimpanzee. What does this fact tell us about our uniqueness in physical and non-physical terms?

Exercises

1. Think of a personal experience from your own life, where the limiting physical properties of the body were superseded by a concept of the body as a flow of energy and intelligence.

2. Make a list of any physical ailments you are experiencing in your body — these may be related to weight loss or gain, physical ailments, disease, etc.

Next to each desired change, think about the thoughts related to each ailment versus the physical experience of each one.

Now, make an intention to change your assumptions about these realities. (Ie. My intent is to think of a beam of sunlight radiating my soul every time I experience back pain or my intent is to think of loved ones when I experience heart burn today.)

3. This week, make a point to observe the thoughts inside you. Take extra note of the thoughts, images and memories that make you believe in unconditional spiritual love. These positive feelings are signposts towards a future opening in the expansion of your soul.

Take notes on how you want to manifest these positive feelings of love even more in your life.

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Hello world and WELCOME!!!

You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away. – C. JoyBell C.

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WELCOME to “Well-Heeled Souls” where the heels mean nothing without the complete outfit comprised of the mind, heart, and soul!

In a time [and world] where many women have become caught up in presenting a well-rounded external appearance complete with designer stilettos paired with the latest and greatest designer duds, and faces beat to perfection (i.e., that means make-up to perfection); yet the internal outfit is a broken, battered, and worn down pair of kicks.  Where common sense is largely uncommon and women have somehow forgotten their value and worth, it became apparent that we [women] must be reminded that our stock price is not in our designer heels alone but our total package inside and out – our “Well-Heeled Souls.”

Well Heeled Souls”  is about understanding, owning, and upholding our worth in the day-to-day interactions and myriad of situations we encounter; it’s about standing firm based on who we [who we know ourselves to be] to ensure we get exactly what we deserve [read: are worthy of], no more, no less.

Join us as we explore the many ways to strut through life with a banging pair of heels but to do so Well HEALED with “Well Heeled Souls!”

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Don’t think about making life better for other people who don’t even deserve you, rather, focus on making your life the best, for yourself and those who love you.  C. JoyBell